I haven't posted in ages, but this makes me sooo mad I just have to say that this is pitiful, I don't even feel like going into an actual rant about this Gabby Douglas Hair??!!

The Journey Back

Death...we all say we know it will come to us one day and yet when it does very few of us are ever prepared. In the past 3 weeks I have lost three family members. Two in the same week and and one about a week and a half after that; various ages, from elderly to middle age to young. As my cousin stood there watching as his grandmother (my aunt) was being buried, I doubt that he had any idea that he too would, only a week and a half a later, be in the same position as her. Death can be somewhat of an oxymoron, as it sheds light on life. What are you doing? How are you living the life you have? With honour, dignity, respect, love, kindness, obedience to Divine guidance? In your absence would you be remembered fondly or missed? Are you living with regret for things that should have not been done or said; or things that should have been done or said? Are you laying the foundation for leaving behind a legacy that would bring continuous goodness for others? Death brings heartache and yet some benefits. It is a time for remembrance and reflection on life....

Coming Soon

Wow it's been awhile I thought I would probably never write here again and delete this blog, but now after thinking today I think I may be coming back to write here. Maybe I will................

The Difference Between Strength and Courage (author unknown)

It takes strength to be firm, It takes courage to be gentle,It takes strength to stand guard, It takes courage to let down your guard,It takes strength to conquer, It takes courage to surrender,It takes strength to be certain, It takes courage to have doubt,It takes strength to fit in, It takes courage to stand out,It takes strength to feel a friend's pain, It takes courage to feel your own pain,It takes strength to hide your own pains, It takes courage to show them,It takes strength to endure abuse, It takes courage to stop it,It takes strength to stand alone, It takes courage to lean on another,It takes strength to love, It takes courage to be loved,It takes strength to survive, It takes courage to live.

The computer is not my friend today

Arrggghhhhhhhhhh! The computer is having PMS today and is choosing to be very difficult :( I have accidently lost my blog list :O But fear not I will be posting your links back again soon.

A Rainbow Family

This is such a beautiful story .....For those mothers out there with daughters, how many of you would enjoy it if their husband did this chore for them? ;)

Reflecting

I was reflecting on something this morning, and that is that money is usually at the root of evil. This is not to say that money is bad or that people who have it are all evil, but just that many people do not know how to handle wealth, or cannot handle being without it. For example alot of people are willing to go to great and sometimes harmful lengths to get it. People kill family and strangers for money, they steal for it, lie for it etc. When I stop to think about how many marriages fail due to problems with finances and how many families argue about money on a weekly, if not daily basis, it astonishes me. Then I think about the comparison of people who live in poor countries and how for the greater majority of those families, the lack of money brings them closer together. So it makes me realize 2 things; 1 you have to be more at peace with what you have, especially when what you have allows you to have your basic needs. You have to realize that alot of what you are trying to achieve should not make you sacrifice your integrity, and that most of what we are working towards is well over what we need to survive. Of course I do not have anything against someone working hard and as a result that person becomes wealthy; just that if you are killing yourself and angry all the time due to the pursuit of wealth, then you need to evaluate if you priorities are really in order. You see, many people in this society are in debt due to overindulgence. Many times you will hear of people owning expensive cars and other toys, but yet their rent or mortgage is months overdue. I remember once watching an episode of Oprah and there was a couple on the show and between the two of them, they earned over one hundred thousand dollars annually, they both were paying on really expensive cars, but yet they had their stuff for the baby's nursery on lay-a-way, because they were in so much debt they could not afford to pay for it flat out! This is a serious problem...The second thing that I realized is that when you are blessed with wealth, you have to remember where you came from, and how you got to where you are today; when you do this, you are more likely to benefit others and the more you benefit others as well as yourself, the more fulfilling your life will be. The lesson is: be in control of wealth, don't let wealth control you.

You can't take it with you when your'e gone

When it comes to news I can be late sometimes, because I don't really watch T.V. much, which is why I was extremely infuriated, but yet not surprised when I found out about the Wal-Mart associate who was killed on black friday . I was not surprised, because I have worked for good ol' Wally World and making money is all that matters there. They do not really care if you are on your death bed, or a family member is, just so long as you can make them more money. I remember my first year black friday incident . It is no joke! On top of that people will go to great lengths for greed. A man had to be killed over "stuff." Useless pathetic stuff, that will get a couple of uses and then tossed to the side......It is disgusting.

Changes

Well I finally made a new transition, although it may be temporary, I have relocated and finally left Wally World behind! Yay me! Ironically I do not have another job yet, but I am focusing on other things right now. I feel like my life is changing and I have awaken from a long nap, and now I have more important things to focus on. We will see how I progress. Until next time....

This may be the last....well at least for a while

Hmmm August? Has it been that long?....I guess I have not written here in a while. I probably won't write here much either maybe every once in a while as I have very little time, and there is too much important things going on in the world to be stuck to this computer. On the other hand because there is so much going on in the world, I will probably not give up blogging all together. Just occasionally. No promises though. Until next time...........

Due to the fact that I am a little bit wishy washy...

Ok I am always coming up with new ideas, and yet I go back later and think of the practicality of these ideas that once seemed so good, but after some reflection, I realize I probably wont have the time to keep up or follow through on the idea. So on that note...Mushy Mondays and Wedding Wednesdays will not be a regularly featured post after all lol. Maybe just every once in a while.

Love and affection

Due to the fact that love is in the air lol I will be trying out a new format on Mondays and Wednesdays Mondays will now be "Mushy Mondays" and Wednesdays are "Wedding Wednesdays" I will feature love notes and proposals on these days from you (the viewers). Just follow the link* (click on title of this post) for more info and I will be posting more information soon! *Link is no longer available*

Ok he can be stupid some times too

A few days ago I decided to go and visit the family in NC and also to see a couple of friends and my "special friend." It was a great time. I love the new house and I had a fun time catching up and eating. The highlight of my trip was L.D's blunder. I am quite sure most of you are familiar with Wal-Mart and their Rollback signs on items that they stack out in the main aisles for display and impulse purchases, well apparently L.D. is not so familiar with the rollback signs. As my mom and I were strolling the aisles we stopped to think about what we wanted next and L.D. says, "Wow they have these sugar free now?" (referring to the single kool-aid type packets that you can add to a water bottle) My mother goes, "yeah they do." Then she asks L.D., "what brand is that?" L.D. responds without any hesitation, and much confidence, "Rollback." LOL; I lost it! He was thinking that the sign above the stack out referred to the product advertised. It took my mom a minute and some clarification from me to realize his blunder! Then she had to laugh too. He eventually realized the absurdity of his statement once I told him that the sign did not refer to the product name lol! I vowed to never let him live that moment down.....that's why I am blogging about it now! Thank you sweety for the laugh!

mobility is a wonderful thing

Wow this is my first time mobile blogging, and i will must say i can see how this can come in handy and maybe even become a little more addictive lol. Luckily for me that wont happen at least not right now because this is my sister's new toy, and I am just testing its capabilities. I am still involved in making some big decisions including a really big important event coming up that i will disclose later, until then the journey continues...

"Say What??!!"

Ok another cheat post, I am posting another news story because I have no friggin time to write about myself lol! This relocating thing is soo much work and stress, but hopefully in the end it will all be worth it. Besides these two stories are really very relevant and helpful; I was actually surprised to see them considering our society is based on making profit off of interest and caters to people's wants and desires and not necessarily their needs, but anyway here it is and also here . Why not take time to read it and pick up some hard reality and tips along the way?

"Say What?!!"

Talk about life imitating art!! Lol this story was too funny, so I had to share .

2008 Olympic Dream Team

Here they are in case you didn't know. Is this a good lineup? click here

Makin up (my mind) is hard to do

Wow! my peeps are finally leaving the area for the big relocate. It will be the first time in my life that I have not lived in the same city and state as them. It is bittersweet. It affected me alot more than I realized it would. I do have to make the decision as to whether I plan to temporarily relocate where they are, at the end of this month. I say temporarily because I a planning a more permanent move in the next 3 months GOD-willing, that will put me further away from them, so I am considering spending my last few days with them. I just have so much to consider such as tying up loose ends here mostly financial and I have a few people I need to see and who want to see me before I leave, also I would like to be in a different work environment when I make my big move, and that is also something that is causing a little confusion as the company I am looking to get into is hiring here but they do have other offices across the country just not hiring for the same position I am eligible for... I don't know what the future holds for me in these next coming months. Hopefully things will work out.

A quick excuse

I am becoming a horrible blogger. I don't know what to blame it on because it is a multitude of things, most of which have to do with some life changing decisions I have to make. So of course once again I feel overwhelmed :S On a lighter note, I have found someone to love....again :) Except this time I think it is the real deal. Maybe that is taking a big chunk of my time? hmmm yeah it probably is lol!

Ignorance is not always bliss

Something occurred today at work (well a couple of somethings) that I was unsure if I would bother blogging about, but then I happened to stop by Shaz's blog and after reading this post about offensive behavior and which happened to link to IMuslim's very informative post pertaining to the Rachel Ray/ Dunkin Donuts story , I decided that I would write this post. I mentioned a while back about a new fan to my blog, that I have influenced to possibly start her own blog. Well that fan happens to be a really cool lady I work with. She was helping me finish up some work in my department when one of our "favorite customers" came in as usual she proceeded to provide us with more information than was necessary as to why she was there. Now don't get me wrong I don't mind having a brief conversation with customers about themselves, but I am not a particular fan of this woman due to the fact that she is somewhat of a no-it-all who does not exercise any form of restraint in her opinions no matter how stereotypical, bigoted, or offensive they may be. Usually this type of person would receive a dose of my opinion right back at them, but she talks in a manner in which she seems to be oblivious to the fact that she is offending anyone. I usually politely say my piece and continue working, but now I see her and I try to avoid her if possible. Today I did not have that option. So after informing us why she was in there, she was about to walk away when she said I was at the social security building the other day and I saw a lady in a full burqa and I thought, "I don't understand why she does it, I know she is hot." Now being that I have dealt with this lady many times before I knew her comment was not out of concern, but one "of your different and you need to be like me" attitude. So I politely but firmly explained to her that that is not necessarily true, because depending on the type of cloth used, it can be cooler than having your skin exposed directly to the sun. I also stated that you have to walk in someone else shoes before you can make certain judgements. My co-worker, who is not Muslim shook her head in agreement. The customer disagreed (of course) and said that she likes to have as little clothes on as possible when she is hot. When she left my co-worker said, "I see what you go through, you handled it well though because that could not have been me."Some people cannot understand how this comment about being hot is offensive to me, that's because they have never walked in my footsteps. They have not been given stares and oddball questions like, "how do you guys have babies?" and "Do you guys get menstrual cycles?" I have heard some of the most stupidest things! When I was younger I did not worry about dressing in a certain manner as not to attract too much public attention to certain parts of my body, it was not until I came of age and started developing that I chose to adhere to my "religious" guidelines and cover those areas when out in public. So I understand how it feels to have the sun beating down on you skin directly and also what it feels like to have the sun beating down on your skin through cloth. I have walked in the path of both perspectives. The reason why I take it offensively is because I have dealt with public ridicule at many times in my life; how many times have I heard someone yell from a moving car, "take all that Sh*t off!" Or been asked really sarcastically, "aren't you hot with all that stuff on?!" This type of behavior because I choose to cover my hair and legs and arms in public. I could have on a normal pair of pants and a top, but I am considered to be soo weird by some lol. Come on it's 97 degrees outside everyone is feeling hot not just me! People just like to have someone to pick on to make themselves feel better about their not-so-perfect-lives. Which brings me to my second thing that occurred that same day....One of my coworkers was discussing the presidential elections and the candidates with me and another coworker, and she commented how if Barrack Obama was to take office people should not expect everything to be perfect. She stated that since 9''11 we were at serious risk because we are at war with people who do not like us and are jealous of us etc. So we have to continue the war anyway because we are not safe. Well there are 2 issues that are touchy subjects especially at work. One is religion and the other is politics. These issues are not the best thing to debate about at work because people get very firm and emotional about their viewpoint, and at work it is about the team effort of getting the job done for the good of the company as a whole, and when some people disagree they take it to another level of hatred and dislike. That is why you have to be careful who you discuss these two topics with at work. If you know that the person can handle a conversation/debate with dignity and respect to agree to disagree without sacrificing the work relationship thereafter, then by all means engage in a educated discussion. However if this person is going to get emotional and personal about it and afterwards have animosity towards you and therefore compromises the work environment, then they are probably not the type of person you would want to hold that topic of discussion with. Anyway back to my present story, after stating her opinion, and turning to me for agreement, I decided to give my coworker my opinion, no matter how unpatriotic she may have seen it. I strongly disagree with people who think that as Americans we can do no wrong and are always completely and infallibly correct in our actions. I think that people who just spew out what the media feeds them and tells them is true are seriously doing themselves an injustice. Likewise anyone who claims to follow the American dream and ideals are actually being unpatriotic when they say this. You are suppose to have the right to think how you want to think and not be persecuted or treated with injustice if you think otherwise. But more often now people who do not agree with what the government is doing are given a hard time or are often taunted and labeled traitors by the so-called "Patriots." I think we have a responsibility to treat people how we want to be treated and that some of the tension we have with other nations has in some part to do with our actions as well. I know because I have suffered discrimination at the hands of some of my own countrymen over the years as well. I also believe that anyone who thinks that our government is completely perfect and innocent is delusional. I think that our government as well as governments abroad are in need of reform and are very corrupt. Power and greed for wealth are serious issues that are often abused even by some well-meaning individuals. So open your eyes and your ears and see things from all viewpoints before determining what you believe. Don't just take your daily dosage of the truth from others.